In my spiritual path,I have come across many so called obstacles.Most of them pertain to how society is (and has been),the pressures,limitations,generalizations and disappointing aspects which so many associate with being healthy and defined in this day and age.One particular facet which I have contemplated quite often has been validation of your true self.
It feels like there is much that we ought to be doing for ourselves,to make ourselves feel worthy,happy,loved,whatever it is that society tries to imprint on us.The realization that for generations this mold of separateness of the being has been pounded upon us,to much ignorance,disillusionment,confusion and ultimately despair,is very unsettling.There is no separation in our whole being.Once we start associating anything,but especially ourselves,as separate,then we will only be disappointed yet again,and will struggle with that deluded perception for the rest of our lives.
And what does this have to do with validation ? Well,once we honor the oneness that is eternal in us,that ties us all,that is our love,our light and our connection, we realize that there is validity in that entity.For if we are all connected,then we all matter.If we all matter,we are all loved,and nobody is left out.That is very much the truth,yet so many of us either do not realize it,are scared of it,ignorant of it (and their true selves).
It is hard to express how this realization came to me.I can certainly say that this realization came to me out in nature,while honoring and respecting and loving all the harmony and beauty that IS around me.The “is” is very important ! Our realizations and truths,just like life,like the Soul,are eternal and are not fleeting,which is one of the essences of oneness.Choosing to honor this oneness is the utmost honor and respect we can pay to all beings.
You can feel love without it being associated to anyone or anything.The purest love stems from sole existence of the Soul,the being,and that is the most sacred love.Taking the courage to acknowledge this love is something that is easier said than done.It is a lot more than peace signs and “free love” ! To be on this course of self love,validation,and eternal oneness is something that must be done on your own.I can vouch that I have been on this path for several years,and it surely is the most challenging,yet most fulfilling,enlightening,meaningful and wonderful path of my life.
This society does not encourage self validation and questing on your own.At some point,you realize that there are very few who willingly choose or can relate to the path you have taken.At times early on the path you certainly do feel loneliness and other vapid human emotions,but the more you truly learn to love all of yourself,the less and less you feel them.And then you realize that these feelings are totally without meaning in your life,that they have no place in your life,and you have come to the point where you decide not bring them into your life anymore.
As I said,this is a difficult path,a very beautiful journey,and I never mean to boast,but is taken me years and it is certainly not one for everyone.
So journey today,and forever,in oneness and true love.